Tags: Observations, Simple, Psychological, Categorizations
I have noticed that the most painful form of rejection we experience is when we reject ourselves, denying our efforts, believing that we're not enough, and underestimating our strengths.
For those who experience self-rejection, it makes sense because it would seem that everyone and everything is rejecting them from their perspective, and to prevent anyone from rejecting them anymore, they reject themselves first.
Unfortunately, this doesn't work and more people would reject them more. Self-rejection is one of the most severe symptoms of depression while self-acceptance is one of the things that treats it.
This happens when a person rejects all future possibilities in order to prevent any of them from happening. The main emotion which leads to this rejection is Fear, when the "flight" response chosen under extreme stress which overwhelms all forms of natural senses and rational thinking.
Originally, the person only wants to reject a few possibilities from the future, but the fear became so large that they decided to reject all of them. Imagine this as if you suddenly saw a flying cockroach and decided to nuke your entire house to get rid of it for good.
Oftentimes, our minds would automatically reject people for any reason out of fear that they may be rejected first. The greater the fear is, the most often they would criticize and reject others.
Since this process seems to save them from any illusionary danger, the behavior keep getting enforced like a negative feedback loop.
I believe it would take maxed stats in [Acceptance] and [Forgiveness] to completely eliminate the unconscious behavior of social rejection. It would take lots of training as well before one can move rationally under extreme stress and pressure.
Rejection happens almost everywhere and anytime, in multiple forms. From the simple social fear of being rejected, there arises different variations of rejection.
To counter this fear, we begin to either reject others, reject ourselves, or even reject our own future.
Before even the conversation starts, rejection might have already happened many times between the two parties. They may reject each other's methods, personality, or anything else.
Thus, to approach and talk with someone, fully accepting everything that might happen, without rejecting any part of them, is the greatest favor you can ever give to other people.
"To what extent does fear control our lives? To what extent will you let it control your life?"
"Let's take comfort of the fact that anything can happen at any moment in time."
"There is a very fine line between 'helplessness' and 'acceptance'."